A cheeky interview about my love for Forced-Bi
I did a deep dive with the deviants over at Forced-Bi on my love for cucks, sluts, pegging, sexuality, whether it’s ever really forced, my kinks, and what I love about being a Femdom for hire. Here’s an excerpt, but you’ll have to venture to their page for the whole thing.
Mistress Zoey Belladonna: Pervy Perspectives on Gay Coaching
February 17, 2024
She styles herself “equal parts curvy and pervy.” And – for what it’s worth – we second both! In addition, she’s quite the conversationalist. So, prepare for a wide-ranging discussion – and, yes, a few doses of “mindfuckery” along the way. If you’re being honest, you wouldn’t have it any other way. Just, whatever you do, don’t call her “Goddess”!
Hello, and welcome! How do you prefer to be addressed?
“‘Mommy,’ ‘Mistress,’ ‘Ma’am,’ or ‘Miss,’ just never Goddess.”
Oh, gotcha!
Well, thanks so much for being with us, Mistress Zoey Belladonna!
Any other nicknames or titles that appeal to you?
“I think of myself as a Domina, ‘kinkster,’ hedonist, pervert, experimentalist, and deviant.”
Kinky experimentation! I like that!
Give us a sense upfront: How do you see what you’re “all about”? I mean… is all this – the world of Domination and fetish – a lifestyle for you, a role play, etc. Just fun? Haha…
“A mixture of all of these.”
Quite a blend!
“Kink and D/s are definitely part of my lifestyle. It is inextricable to who I am as a person.”
Do you think of it as social activism in any capacity?
“I don’t think I’m necessarily advancing feminism or dismantling the patriarchy.”
I gotcha. Plenty of your colleagues take that sort of approach! So, we always wonder!
“But I do think there is potential for individual growth among men exploring their sexualities and relationship to power.
“I like to imagine that it can have a butterfly effect on the world, but that’s not what drives me.”
Okay, yeah… I gotcha.
Let me switch gears for a minute and ask about your clientele. I guess the most basic question would be: How do you think of – and refer to – them?
“I use the word ‘sub’ until we’ve developed a relationship. Then my loyal subs get their own, custom nickname.”
Oh, I see! Like a reward-type thing?
“‘Peanut’ (referring to the size of his cock) is one I bestowed recently.”
Maybe “reward” is not the most appropriate! Haha! Peanut paints quite a picture! So… shout out to him!
Still on the wavelength of gathering background information, I’m curious: what got you into the world of FemDom, in general?
“I’ve always been kinky, an exhibitionist, and a voyeur.”
Ah! Have you, now?!?
“I had a polyamorous relationship when I was much younger that got complicated. My partner felt insecure and jealous a lot.”
That doesn’t sound good.
“We started engaging in cuckold fantasies as a way of trying to process it. We didn’t even really know it was a thing. I was getting off on telling him about my exploits and comparing their cocks to his.”
How did Forced Bi come into the frame?
“From there, Forced Bi seemed an obvious next step. Instead of him getting jealous about it, I made him watch. Then I convinced him to participate. Pandora’s Box was wide open.”
Mmmm… and maybe a few other things were “wide open,” as well! (Wink, wink!)
As far as your online services go: How long have you been doing this?
“I’ve been practicing on and off for about a decade – more consistently for the last four years.”
But… you also have a “dungeon” or studio space?
“Yes! I am based out of New York City [NYC] and the east coast. I travel to the Midwest and southeast frequently and am available to be flown anywhere.”
Interested readers: Take note!
Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“Both. I love what I do and do what I love.”
Congratulations!
Are you full-time?
“This is a side gig for me – a passion project.”
Right on.
Are you satisfied with that? You want any more? …Or less?
“I’m satisfied with where things are at, professionally.
“But I just moved to NYC and am very excited to get more involved with the local kink scene – for both professional and personal reasons.”
That’s cool!
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself?
“I am thirty-five, bisexual, and polyamorous.
“I love film, music, travel, and food. My hobbies include cycling, surfing (poorly)…”
Haha!
“…volunteering, writing, and photography.”
That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing all that!
Okay. Ready to dive into some of the, well… bolts and, um… nuts of Forced Bi?
Lemme start with the label itself!
On the face of it, the “Forced-Bi fetish” has two components: it’s got something to do with “force” and something to do with “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more or less equally attracted to females and males – is possible?
“I think we need to go back to the Kinsey Scale.”
If I may, let me just take a second to summarize that – for those who don’t know.
Alfred Kinsey was a 20th-century American “sexologist” – meaning, a person who studied human sexuality from a broadly scientific perspective. His approach was somewhere between biology and psychology. Among other things, Kinsey articulated the idea that sexuality fell along a spectrum. The key was that people who are either exclusively heterosexual, or homosexual, are extreme cases. He gives the impression that most people have tendencies both ways – to greater or lesser degrees.
“Sexuality is fluid, and if our society were given more room – ahem… if men in our society were given more freedom to explore without judgment – then this would be a common understanding of sexuality.
“As far as the term ‘bisexuality,’ I think this is an issue of semantics (or really pedantry) more than anything. To me, the prefix ‘bi-,’ in this usage, denotes – not the attraction to, or assumption of, only two genders – but an attraction to one’s own gender and others.”
Interesting. I’ve never heard that interpretation before.
I asked this before of you, specifically. But now, thinking of the Forced-Bi Fetish, do you see it as a lifestyle, a game, a power trip, …a trap (!), or something else?
“It’s a game, a fun activity, a rite of passage, a power trip.”
In other words… it’s complicated!
“I tend to only seriously date people who are at least heteroflexible. So, it is part of my lifestyle. But I’m not out doing this every weekend.”
Understood!
There is a litany of names for this fetish. Do you have any preference, there? Or …same difference?
“Again, semantics and pedantry. I think the reason terms like ‘Coerced’ and ‘Coaching’ have risen in popularity has more to do with online censorship laws rather than political correctness.
“I can’t say ‘forced’ on most platforms. But I can use the word ‘coached.’
“It doesn’t change the way I approach this fetish.”
I totally follow you.
Let’s get deeper into that. Because I think that the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. As you observed, for legal reasons – even when the word is used – it has to mean something less than “literally compelled by threats or violence.” But that still leaves a lot of ground!
How do you think of it? Coercion? Commandment? Encouragement? Enticement? Instruction? Permission? Seduction? Haha! Should I go on??
Forced Bi, Coerced Gay, Kinky Coaching? Same diff!
“Alllll of the above!”
Bwahaha! Nice!
“Seducing someone into doing something they (allegedly!) don’t want to do makes me feel incredibly powerful.
“Seeing how far you’ll go for me, reminding you of your place, encouraging self-discovery – I use all of these methods.
“The only thing I’m ‘forcing’ anyone to do is reckon with their internalized shame, hang up their insecurities and ego, and be vulnerable enough to let themselves do something outside of their comfort zone.”
Does Forced Bi change a sub’s sexual orientation?
“I said it before: bring back the Kinsey Scale.
“As a society, I think we’ve gotten a little too obsessed with how things define us. So what if you like sucking cock? So what if you try it once and want to do it all the time? Who cares?!
“Men are drawn to forced bi for a lot of reasons. Some want to feel proud, like conquerors. Some are exhibitionists. Some do it because they know it makes me happy and horny, or because they know they’ll get a reward from me.
“It might not mean anything; or, it might mean you’re a little gay. But… who isn’t these days?”
Bwahaha!
Not to put too fine a point on it, but… to put it dramatically, if someone asked you “Can Forced Bi turn a guy gay?” …What would you say?
“I don’t know, and I don’t really care.”
Is it bad if I think that answer is hot?!? Lol!
“I think there are plenty of straight guys who like to suck cock. There are plenty of gay guys that are exhibitionists and want to show off for a woman. There are plenty of deviants and adventurers who just want to try everything (they’re greedy – my favorites). It doesn’t really matter.”
Mmmmmm… I’m feeling a little warm, suddenly!